Who's Comforted?


Hello Lovelies!

Yes, the bit about cute comments being "infantilizing" resonates deeply. Don't make quips at my expense to ease the tension for you. I don't yuck it up about my own challenges. Just think of me as a person. With a mobility aid. That's it. That's all:) Cheers everyone!

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